Progress, Not Perfection

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My daughter is on a new softball team this year. She had been with a core group of players and the same coach since starting her softball career, but was selected to be part of a new team this season.

On her old team, her position as catcher was solid. She loved the position, the coaches loved how she could throw the ball to second to get an out, and she learned the skills and strategies of knowing how to make smart plays. 

On her new team, there are a couple of girls who are solid catchers. They are older, stronger and highly skilled in the position. The opportunities for her to catch seem to be limited.

What the team needs are additional skilled pitchers. While my daughter has a strong, solid arm, pitching is not her specialty. She struggles to get the ball in the strike zone consistently. She doesn't want to be a pitcher, but you will likely find her on the mound at some point relieving other talented pitchers.

As the parent, watching her pitch can be frustrating because I know it's not her favorite position and I know she's highly talented in other spots on the field. Yet, watching her pitch is inspiring because it's reminding me that progress is better than perfection.

She is making progress in getting the ball over the plate and in making accurate pitches. She is giving it her all even when she's walking more players than striking them out. She's being a team player, taking on whatever role the coach asks of her without attitude or grief. Most importantly, she's showing up, doing the work, and making progress in her own way.

As adults, it can be difficult to willingly put ourselves into situations where we might not perform at our highest level. We might struggle or strike out in our own way. We may even avoid doing things because we know we won't succeed, at least not at first. We let our thoughts about perfection rule and we may choose not to show up, do the work, and make progress in our own way.

Take this photo for example. This photo was shot through a chain-link fence which has smaller spacing than most chain-link fences. Unfortunately there is nowhere you can go at this particular field without having to shoot through ugly, tiny-spaced chain-link fence. I get frustrated about taking photos at this field and sometimes I don't even bother taking my camera out. In this shot, getting focus to stay on my daughter through the fence while she's moving and keeping her framed perfectly in the center space of the batter was just a little challenging. Despite the challenge, I'm going to learn from my daughter to keep showing up, doing the work, and making progress in my own way. Whatever that looks like for you, I hope you'll do the same.

xo

 

5 Tips for Choosing the Right Photographer For Your Family

By having such easy access to photo-taking devices, we have the opportunity to photograph any and every milestone and moment we want. The problem is that we, as parents, aren't IN most of these photos. Hiring a professional photographer can not only help YOU to be present in photos with your most favorite people on the planet, but it is a wonderful way to celebrate your family and give a brief glimpse into your family life right now in all of its glorious beauty and chaos. 

With so many photographers to choose from, how do you find the right fit? Here are 5 tips for choosing the right photographer for YOUR family: 

1. Choose your style. Do you prefer the look and feel of traditional portraits with a studio backdrop? Would you and your family enjoy a more casual photo session at a local park or urban setting? Will it feel less stressful to document your family life from the comfort of your home? Each of these types of sessions have their advantages and limitations, so it helps to know which look and style you'll appreciate most. 

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2. Browse images. Spend time navigating a photographer’s portfolio to make sure their style of work matches your taste. If you are looking for a traditional portrait session where everyone is sitting and looking at the camera in most of the photos, for example, you may not want to choose a photographer who displays images with a more photojournalistic, candid style.

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3. Learn about the photographer and the process. One of the first places I go when I am visiting a potential photographer’s website is their “about” page. You want to feel completely relaxed and comfortable with the photographer you choose, and getting to know a bit about him/her will help. You also want to understand what to expect. What type of photo session experience does the photographer offer? Do you receive helpful information in preparing for your photo session (tips on what to wear, ideas on what to do with your images, etc.)?

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4. Experience with children. You want to choose a photographer that not only “gets” children and knows how to interact with them, you want to be sure they know how to connect with YOUR child. Whether your child is energetic, needs more time to warm up, or has difficulty in new situations, it helps when the photographer you’ve selected understands these needs and does whatever it takes to build a relationship and form trust with your little one. When there is trust, children are much more likely to relax...which inevitably helps you as the parent to feel at ease, too. 

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5. How much should you spend? Most professional photographers have spent countless hours (and dollars) learning composition, lighting, posing, and honing their craft. They have also taken the necessary steps to operate a legitimate business. A dedicated photographer and professional business owner will strive to offer you a quality experience throughout the entire process. Your photographer should take the time to get to know you and your family, and understand your specific needs. When you find the right photographer whom you feel will capture the essence of your family, figure out a way to hire her/him even if the investment is higher than someone else. Start a photo session fund where you set aside a bit of money each month. Ask the photographer if there is a payment plan option. Subscribe to her/his newsletter to receive special offers. Figure out a way to make it work if you really feel a connection with a particular photographer and believe they will create a positive photo session experience for your family.

The images you create with your children today will be their most treasured possessions someday. Take the time to capture who you are as a family at this particular moment in time and get IN the photos with them by hiring a professional photographer. You'll be so glad you did.

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It's My Birthday - Let's Celebrate with a Giveaway!

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When I was 8 years old, I had a magic birthday party. I wore my favorite shiny pink jacket, called myself Lori the Great and made water magically trickle out of my friend's arm. Don't even ask...a magician never reveals her secrets.

I remember all of the practice and planning that went into this party; the hours of reading magic books, even more hours of practicing magic tricks and preparing all of the materials. It was important to me, even at such a young age, that my friends who came to my party had a fun time. I wanted to give them the gift of a memorable experience.

I guess some things never change. For my birthday this year, I want to give one of you the gift of a memorable experience! 

Enter to win a Photo Package Giveaway for one lucky LFP follower!

WHAT’S INCLUDED:

  • Hair blowout and makeup application by my favorite hair and MUA, Wendy, of Mio Salon (located in Oakland’s Montclair Village)
  • Swag bag of goodies
  • Planning session over the phone 
  • Tips on what to wear
  • A short + sweet 20-minute urban photo session to use however you wish! Grab your best friend, gather your spouse and kids, update your social media profiles, OR use the time to document modern, timeless portraits of you...just for you
  • Your choice of ten high-resolution digital files
  • A custom Mobile App -  take your photos with you everywhere you go

Package value: $649

HOW TO ENTER (you must complete all three steps in order to participate):

1. Follow Lori Fuller Photography on one or both Facebook and Instagram

2. Subscribe to our newsletter here

3. Leave a comment on this blog post telling us that you’ve completed steps 1 and 2. Also, please answer this question: Imagine you are a Superhero - what is your super power? 

If you don't see the "Post Comment" button at bottom, click on the title of blog post to refresh page.

THE (MIGHTY FINE) PRINT: No purchase necessary. Giveaway ends at 11:59pm Tuesday, March 6. Winner will be randomly selected on Wednesday, March 7. Once it is verified that winner has completed all “How to Enter” steps, winner will be notified. Offer has no cash value. May not be combined with other offers. Hair blowout and makeup application will take place at Mio Salon in Oakland, CA and photo session will take place in Oakland, CA on a mutually agreed upon date in March or April 2018. Winner is responsible for all fees associated with travel to/from Oakland, CA. Requests for hair and makeup services for others being photographed require an additional fee. Spam is yucky and so are cheaters; spammers and cheaters will be disqualified. If you are under 18 years of age, please get your parent’s approval. By signing up for our newsletter, you agree to receive occasional emails from us. We think you'll enjoy the content, but you may unsubscribe at any time. Your email address will never be shared.

Good luck!

Lori...the Great :)

What I Learned From the Super Bowl Selfie Kid

By now you've heard of the Super Bowl Selfie Kid. Ryan McKenna earned instant fame this past Sunday by taking selfies with Justin Timberlake during the Super Bowl Halftime Show. As expected, McKenna became a household name - as well as a meme - and earned the hashtag #selfiekid on social media. 

The next day I was reading an article where the seventh grader described his experience:

“I just thought to myself, ‘I’ll never get this opportunity again in my whole life,'” McKenna told the Pioneer Press. “I just went for it.”

I just went for it. 

On stage at the Super Bowl with a famous pop star singing right next to him, this 13-year-old understood the value of the moment he was in...and went for it. 

It made me think about how liberating this carefree approach would feel in all of the ordinary, non-Jumbotron moments in our lives. As adults, we can get so caught up in all of those practical reasons for why we absolutely shouldn't do something. We overthink or overanalyze. We don't know where to start, so we never do. We don't have the time or the money or the support we might need. We doubt our strengths or what we are capable of. We worry that we will fail.

What if we all gave ourselves permission to not get sidelined by the practical reasons for not doing something, and actually go ahead and do them? Sure, adulting is full of responsibilities and we do sometimes have to put things off for a whole variety of reasons, but let's collectively find ways that allow us each to say, "I just went for it" more often than not. Whether you want to run a marathon, start a business, learn a new hobby, write a novel, go on a trip to Paris (my 11-year-old daughter's ultimate wish at the moment), imagine that this is your opportunity to create your own Super Bowl Halftime Show. So go ahead, take that selfie and hashtag your #justwentforit moment...I'll be over here rooting for you!

xo

 Dreaming of a trip to Paris with my daughter...and croissants. 

Dreaming of a trip to Paris with my daughter...and croissants. 

Send a Little Note of Peace

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When was the last time you received - or sent - a handwritten note in the mail? Not a birthday card or thank you card, but an actual note that was sent...just because? I'm going to guess that it's been a while.

Maybe it seems silly to sit with paper and pen to write a note to someone when it is easier and faster (and doesn't require a stamp!) to send an email or text. 

Here's the thing. A handwritten note is intentional. It takes time, thought, and effort. It shows care and a type of thoughtfulness that just doesn't translate in the same way as an email. 

With so much going on in the news and events around the country and the world, a thoughtful note can mean the world to someone who may be feeling overwhelmed or is going through a hard time. 

This is why I want to share "Sending Peace" cards to anyone who wants to spread an encouraging word and bring a smile to someone's face. The first readers who reply "I want to send peace" will receive four blank "Sending Peace" cards. These are free and I'll even pay for postage! The only thing you need to do is send them whenever you feel inspired to share a friendly note or an encouraging word.

A handwritten note is not going to solve all of our problems, but when we all make small intentional steps to spread peace and kindness, it makes us all better.

xo

Free Gift: Summertime Download

Whether your summer adventures take you to faraway places with miles of travel, or instead it's just a few steps to the backyard for BBQ's, swimming or pretend camping, let the journey be part of the fun. Enjoy, print, and share this complimentary download. Decorate both your real walls and your social media walls with this simple reminder to always enjoy the journey as much as the arrival. 

To download, click here. 

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The Brown Paper Bag

Every year around this time, my kids bring home a brown paper bag overflowing with all kinds of treasures from school – writing journals, projects, half-used workbooks, photos, class work, random drawings, dioramas, art portfolios, and so on. And every year, that brown bag sits in our dining room for a week (or longer) as I ponder what to do with it all. The easiest solution, of course, is to not give it one ounce of thought and toss the whole thing in the recycle bin. But, I just can’t. Perhaps it’s the former teacher in me or just the sentimental mom, but there is so much hard work showcased in that bag. It is an entire years worth of growth and accomplishment – how can I just toss it? So, I dump everything on the table and I begin sorting through it all, one piece at a time. The kids help make decisions about what to keep and what to toss. We work until we’ve narrowed the pile down.

But, then what?

A few years ago, I would’ve gone through this process and narrowed down the keepers, and then guess what I would do with those pieces? Toss them right back into the brown paper bag and hide the bag in a closet! The problem was I didn’t have a system in place for storing the papers and projects that we all wanted to keep. That is, until I finally decided on a way to store, highlight and archive all of the amazing work and special projects done throughout the year.

A School Days Portfolio Keepsake was my solution. The binder porfolio is a system I have fully embraced because it is smart, easy to keep organized, and will be just the right size keepsake for my children to hold on to and enjoy flipping through over the years. Here’s how I do it:

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1. Gather your supplies. 

one large three-ring binder (the largest you can find) for each child
page protectors
tabbed page protectors
archival album pages (sizes 4×6 and 8×10)
tape, scissors, post-it notes, pen
pages labeled with each grade

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2. Label the tabs.

I have one tab for each grade from preschool-8th grade. You can break this down however you would like (ie. make a K-5 binder and then a separate one for 6-8). I know that the earlier years have more paperwork than the older years, so I’m pretty confident that I’ll be able to fit all the items we want to keep through 8th grade in this one binder.

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3. What to keep

I have a few hard and fast rules in terms of what to keep. Some of the must-include items are:

-report cards

-school photos

-class photos

-special certificates

-sports/extracurricular awards/pictures

-misc. photos from the year

-writing samples (creative writing and poems are my favorite)

-art projects

-self-portraits

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4. Photograph oversized art work or projects.

One of my favorite projects in the early grades is when the teachers ask the class at the beginning of the year what they hope to learn, and then ask what they learned at the end of the year. These projects don’t fit well in a three-ring binder so I just take photos of fun projects like this so we can print them and include in an album or the binder.

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5. Let the kids take ownership of their portfolios

In addition to helping decide what to keep or toss, enlist your child’s help in decorating the cover, as well as the tabbed divider pages for each grade. What I love about this is not only seeing how much more sophisticated their art becomes, but since they usually draw pictures of things they are most interested in at that time (ie. Minecraft), it becomes a time capsule of sorts and lets me see how their hobbies/interests have changed (or stayed the same) year to year.

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6. Include photographs from the year

I will incorporate images from the year that really tell a story about my child’s interests or favorite things. Here you see my daughter dressed as a baseball player (GO YANKS!), playing school, and holding her most precious toy, Baby Lily. I use archival-quality photo pages from Print File to safely hold and protect images. I absolutely L O V E mixing images into the binder because 1) it shows how much my kids have grown, 2) it adds great visuals, and 3) printed photos rock! #printyourphotos

Below is a sweet little note my son wrote to my daughter on her first day of Kindergarten. sniff sniff

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7. Be selective in what you choose to keep. 

Set guidelines with your kids on how to decide if something is portfolio-worthy or not. A general rule of thumb is if it takes us longer than a few seconds to decide, then it probably isn’t worth keeping.

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If you have a system in place and all the supplies on hand, creating a School Days Portfolio Keepsake is really a quick – and fun – project that you can do together with the whole family. It is my hope that someday my kids will appreciate my sentimental side as they browse through this book of memories and hard work.

Do you have a way of organizing all of your kid’s school work? I’d love to hear from you in the comments!

xo

 

Get Moms in Photos

One of the reasons I am passionate about family photography is I believe parents need to exist in photos with their children. Moms, in particular, tend to shy away from the camera, and I want to change that. 

This Mother's Day, give the mom in your life the gift of pampering and a custom photo session with her family! 

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Schedule a special Mother's Day Package during the month of May or June and Mom will receive complimentary hair and makeup services on the day of the session!

Mother's Day Package Includes:

•a relaxed family photo session focusing on real moments and authentic connections that help tell the story of your family life as it is right now
•in-home or outdoor session lasting up to two hours
•a custom-designed, heirloom album showcasing up to 30 images from your session
•five high-resolution digital files of your choice
•special treats just for Mom on the day of session
Special Price: $795

Mother's Day Package is available for booking between now and June 30, 2017.

You must book Mother's Day Package to receive complimentary hair and makeup services.

We will help you book your hair/makeup appointment and photo session on the same day.

Be sure to line up a babysitter for the evening...you are going to look fabulous and will want to enjoy a night out on the town!

Very limited spots available, so don't delay in booking. Session must take place by June 30. The collection of sales tax is required. May not be combined with other offers.

A note for my awesome families with two mamas: You can both take advantage of the hair and makeup services for an additional fee of $75.

Lessons from the Softball Field

During my freshman year in high school, I tried out for the girls softball team. I had no experience playing softball, but I had recently experienced a pretty traumatic loss (my father died of a heart attack), so my friends encouraged me to try something new and fun to keep my mind off the obvious. 

A majority of the girls on the team had been playing for at least a few years, probably more. 

I remember watching them pitch. And catch. And hit.

They pitched fast. They caught every ball. They hit solidly. 

When I went up to bat, I missed every ball. When I played in the field, I missed every ball. When I pitched...ha, yeah right...I didn't even attempt to pitch!

The tryouts I went to were some kind of preliminary tryouts - they were the tryouts before the actual tryouts!

At the end of the session, the coaches sat us down and began by expressing gratitude to everyone for coming out, but then announcing that three of us wouldn't be moving on to the regular tryouts. 

In case you were wondering, I was one of the three that wouldn't be moving on to the regular tryouts. 

I was cut from the tryouts before the actual tryouts!

As humiliating as it was, it was a good lesson in resilience and being open to new experiences. Shortly after, I tried out for soccer and made it on the team! While I was no star player or anything, I really liked the action involved in this sport and felt like I had found something to keep me moving forward...in more ways than one. 

I think of this story every time I watch my daughter from the sidelines. Whether she is pitching, catching, hitting, or playing in the field, I love her focus and "head in the game" demeanor. She shows resilience when things aren't going her way in the game, and is out there doing her best every step of the way. Clearly she didn't earn her softball skills from me, but I like to think the other positive qualities she brings out onto the field with her have my name all over them! xo

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Summer Photo Fun for Kids with Cameras

Are you looking for an enriching summer experience for your child?

Does your child want to learn how to take awesome photos? 

I am offering two week-long photography experiences for kids entering grades 3-8. Summer Photo Fun for Kids with Cameras is designed to get kids excited about the art of photography and teach them the basics of using their cameras and how to be creative.

I'm most excited about this program because I am passionate about helping children find ways to express themselves artistically.

Topics include: basic camera functions, rules of photography, light, composition, and more! We will spend lots of time "in the field" discussing concepts and practicing skills. 

Students should bring a fully charged camera with them each day.  DSLR, point and shoot, or camera phones are ok. 

Students will create a Photography Field Guide that he/she will take home at the end of the week. 

Spots are limited and the Alameda week is almost full! 

Click here to register. 

 

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